DEAL-BREAKERS

When we think about the kind of person we’d like to date, we often list the qualities we most desire in a partner....

But we also have our deal breakers—qualities that would disqualify someone as a dating prospect, regardless of how many other wonderful traits they have.
Everyone has to have deal-breakers in a relationship....Here are some possible red flags!

Early Warning Signs

Take notice if your new love interest:

• Shows up more than a little late. This can be a sign of anxiety, trouble tracking time, or simple disrespect. Is this something you can deal with?
• Drinks too much. If it happens more than once early on, pay attention.It could just be nerves, but it could also suggest problems controlling urges, mental health issues, or possibly even an addiction problem.
• Trash-talks an ex. It can take time to get over a split, but if your date is focusing on the ex, how can they focus on you? Are they ready to move on? And if they can devalue one person they had a relationship with, what’s to keep them from doing the same with you?
• Grooms too much, or not enough. Over-grooming could indicate a puffed-up sense of self, and under-grooming could signal depression or other problems.

  Later Alarm Bells

  “In the first blush of romance, people overlook a lot of stuff because they’re so excited,”. But after a month or so, that’s when it’s time to look closer.
  It could be a sign of trouble if your partner:
  • Doesn’t introduce you to family or friends. Does she always have an excuse not to? Not introducing you is a sign that they're not seeing the relationship as long term.
  • Doesn’t have friends. “You don’t want to be somebody’s every-every-everything.” If she doesn’t have other friends, you may want to consider why.
  • Isolates you. He wants you to spend your time with him only, and wants to know where you are when you are apart. This goes to trust. “They may not trust you completely if they're always skeptical about your movement.
  • Wants to do only what they like. Are they calling all the shots? A relationship is two-way. If they're interested in doing only what they like, you have a problem.
  • Never pays their share. “Somebody who is unwilling to invest money is unwilling to invest their emotions,” Marshall says. Chivalry aside, if both people are at the same stage of life, one person always or never paying is a red flag for imbalance in the relationship, Hartwell-Walker notes.
  Bottom line: Trust your judgment. Keep your deal-breaker list to five things that are non-negotiable for you, and leave it at that. But don’t use a long list of deal-breakers as an excuse to keep people away. “No one is going to be perfect.” On the other hand, “Don’t go into any relationship thinking you’re going to reform them.” You won’t.

Don't lose yourself trying to find someone else... 

Reference(s):  webmd.com