"LOVE" VS "IN LOVE" - THE DIFFERENCE

In order to be in a happy, healthy relationship with another person, you really do need to have a clear, in-depth understanding of yourself and your feelings....

 A lack of self-awareness can totally cripple your ability to create a solid connection with someone else.
Here are some signs to help you decide if you "love" someone or you are "in love" with them;

1. Loving someone is a commitment. Being in love is compulsion.
It's quite easy to make up your mind and decide to "love" something or someone for so many reasons...You can choose to stop loving someone and ultimately move on if you aren’t really in love with them. If you are in love, it’s a bit like being drunk. You can’t just decide you don’t want to be drunk anymore. You are under a spell that has totally taken over your mind. The heady feeling of being in love is unlike anything else in the world.

2. Someone you love is a priority. Someone you are in love with is your top priority.
When you love someone, you want only the best for them. You always hope that things go well for them in life. You are always ready to help them with anything that they might need. When you are in love with someone, they are the top priority. So, what’s the difference between love and in love? When you are in love with someone, their needs suddenly become more important than your own. All of those natural, selfish instincts are suddenly replaced when you are in love.

There is a limit to love, but when it comes to being in love, all logic goes out the window and we are ready to do anything.

3. When you love someone, you accept their flaws. When you are in love with someone, they are flawless.
Being in love makes you blind. It is impossible to see all of the flaws in the object of your affection. While they might hit you later on, you just can’t see them when you are in love. You might know that he is a bit lazy or she is a bit selfish, but it just doesn’t matter when you are in love. It is all just part of your lover’s charm.

On the other hand, when you love someone, you can see their flaws loud and clear. You know your partner’s flaws and they irritate the hell out of you! But… it’s okay. You know everything that irritates you about your lover, but it isn’t enough to push you out the door. 

4. Being in love is senseless and a bit random. Love is predictable and logical.

When you love someone, you know why you do. There are reasons why you know you love them. You might love them because they're nice, fun, loyal or other reasons best known to you but being in love is different...do you love this person because of something that happened, or because they are simply the most amazing person you can imagine?

5. You can leave love. Being in love is irreplaceable.

If you love someone, you can accept when they are better off with you. While you might be inflated and not want to go, if the relationship isn’t right for you, you can move on from someone you love.

When you are in love, the idea of leaving kills you. It is impossible to imagine having a life worth living if you have to be apart from your loved one.

So, what is the difference between “love” and “in love”? Only you can really say for sure. Everybody experiences things a little bit differently. You can look for signs to decide if you love someone or are really in love, but only your gut can tell you for sure!

Reference(s): lovepanky.com

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