Monday, 11 July 2016


These are some signs to help you decide if you are someone's "rebound"....

A rebound means trying to find another meaningful relationship with another person; it almost always means looking for something else while trying to forget what you used to have. It follows the phrase;  “the only way to get over someone, is to get under someone else,”
Being a rebound comes with a slew of mixed signals that can range between “they're obviously not looking for something serious” and “they're trying to get too serious, too quickly.” The best way to be 100 percent sure if all you're doing is helping someone get over their ex (in the most unhealthy way possible) look for these signs.
These are undeniable signs that you're someone's rebound;

1. They’re totally in love with you for no real reason.

Not that you’re not amazing and lovable or anything, but they barely know you well enough to even know that yet. Are they calling you The One even though you just met, like, ten seconds ago? In quiet moments, between basking in the adoration, do you feel sort of like a blank canvas they’re projecting their feelings onto?

2. The relationship moves really fast and really slow at the same time.

On the surface, your relationship is growing at warp speed. Within a few weeks, they’re declaring their love for you, you’re all but living together, and nearly every waking moment is spent in each other’s company. Weirdly, though, you feel like you’ve barely gotten to know them, and there’s a strange lack of actual commitment compared to how much time they spend with you.

3. You sense a lingering bitterness over their ex.

Maybe they insist they’re over their last relationship, but now and then they lash out, seemingly out of nowhere, about what a monster their former lover is.

4. Or they’re just plain fixated on the ex in general.

Do they talk about the pain of their past relationship ad nauseam? Do they cry on your shoulder about their heartbreak a lot? Make no mistake, it is not some great honor that you have been chosen to nurse their feelings back to health, and no, you cannot “fix” them. It’s easy to assume that once they’ve finally healed from the breakup, they’ll look to you as the valiant goddess who swept into their life at just the right time to make it all better, but odds are they’ll just sort of forget you exist. If you can barely squeeze in a moment of actual fun between all their histrionics about their ex, run, don’t walk.

5. The end of their former relationship was a big shock to them.

When a person knows their relationship is dead long before it actually ends, they have more time to mourn it and may take less time to heal after it’s finally over. If this bae was dumped out of the blue and left reeling, chances are higher that they haven’t had enough time to heal before committing to someone new.

6. They want to act like a longterm couple even though you just started dating.

They talk to you as if you’ve been together for years instead of for a few damn seconds. They want to lounge around the house with you in sweats and run errands together instead of going out and about like newer couples tend to do. They already have a set relationship routine (probably leftover from their ex), and you’ve just been dropped into the middle of it.

7. You don’t have much in common.

Of course you don’t, because all you’re doing is all the things just like they did with their ex!

8. Their interest in you suddenly change or runs hot and cold.

Does their obsession with you abruptly morph into a cold distance most times? On and Off? Are they inexplicably moody?  In the wake of their last breakup, they don’t know what they want or what the hell they’re even doing, and you’re getting caught in the crossfire.

9. You feel like you’re constantly being measured against some invisible yardstick.

Maybe you’re being told all the time out of the blue that you’re so much better than their ex, or you can tell they’re silently keeping a running tab between you and them.

10. And you have a nagging feeling that you were the first person they picked out of a lineup.

This is such an awful way to feel, and once the idea’s in your head, it’s hard to ignore. It also means it’s time to RUN. This won’t be fun if you’ve started to get invested in this person, but sticking around and hoping they’ll magically love you for who you really are and leave their ex in the dust will just hurt that much more. Set yourself free!

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